There are many motivations for the things people do now-a-days--Money, Power, Fun, Boredom--just to name a few. The one thing I can tell you though is that the only reason and only motivator you should have for getting married is real, true, love because it is the only thing that will get you through a lifetime (as marriage is meant to be) with someone else.
Please don't confuse love with infatuation. Infatuation is intense (and love can be too), and short lived. Infatuation allows you to see no wrong in the other person and often to put them on a temporary pedestal. However, when the real world kicks in and you realize that person you married in a whirlwind isn't perfect--their taste in movies is actually horrible, they can't cook, they don't fold their clothes the right way or whatever--things will quickly get old.
Love is powerful. It realizes the flaws in another and accepts them. Love is a two way street, don't give your love to someone who can't or won't return it. Love is visible in our actions and heard in our words. That doesn't mean that a marriage based on love will be perfect--but it at least means the marriage has a strong foundation on which to face the trials and tribulations of life!
Get a job for the money, go on a long vacation for fun, get a bad hair cut out of boredom--but marry for love.
Please don't confuse love with infatuation. Infatuation is intense (and love can be too), and short lived. Infatuation allows you to see no wrong in the other person and often to put them on a temporary pedestal. However, when the real world kicks in and you realize that person you married in a whirlwind isn't perfect--their taste in movies is actually horrible, they can't cook, they don't fold their clothes the right way or whatever--things will quickly get old.
Love is powerful. It realizes the flaws in another and accepts them. Love is a two way street, don't give your love to someone who can't or won't return it. Love is visible in our actions and heard in our words. That doesn't mean that a marriage based on love will be perfect--but it at least means the marriage has a strong foundation on which to face the trials and tribulations of life!
Get a job for the money, go on a long vacation for fun, get a bad hair cut out of boredom--but marry for love.
Today is your parent's two year anniversary and your grand-parent's 30 year anniversary. We both hope for many more!
Great advice!
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